According to surveys, we check our phones an average of 47 times a day. But checking your phone frequently for long periods of time can make your partner feel left out. Because in a good relationship between husband and wife, the most important thing is companionship. If you are constantly looking at your phone, then she will feel that the phone is more important than her.
70% of women say smartphones have had a negative impact on their relationship. So, how to solve this problem?
Talk to your partner, but keep it positive.
Instead of prescribing what your partner should and shouldn't do, you want to emphasize the benefits of greater intimacy. For example, you could say, "I love talking to you, but I'm a little annoyed that you're constantly looking at your phone."
Create a "no cell phone" zone in your home.
Discuss with your partner a special area, such as the living room, where you can only chat or watch TV together.
Don't leave your phone on the dining table.
A study shows that the presence of a mobile phone can hinder the free flow of conversation because it may ring or vibrate at any time.
And while looking at the phone and eating at the same time, it will easily make the other party feel that you don't respect the other party's existence.
Follow the etiquette.
If you must check your phone, tell the person what you are going to do. Saying this shows your politeness while showing your partner that you are aware that your attention is shifting. It can also make you aware of how often you pick up your phone when your partner is around. If your partner seems unwilling to let go of the habit, instead of blaming the other person, suggest that you both take a closer look at your cell phone habits.
Most importantly, couples form alliances and work together to set new rules.
A partner is a person who decides to stay with me for a lifetime and walk the long road of life together, even if the end is not reached in the end, but at this moment, we firmly believe that he will be the person who will spend my life with me. The husband and wife in the marriage already have a stable living condition and trust each other. The mobile phone is not only a communication tool, but also represents us. The mobile phone contains all aspects of our information, and it has essentially become our absolute privacy. There are many ways to love someone, but looking at your phone is the most expensive one, because looking at my phone is essentially probing my privacy.
Love needs privacy, and privacy is not something to hide, but a boundary to keep each other comfortable. Because you love me, can you look at my phone at will? That's not love, that's liking, and love is restraint, and restraint doesn't mean that we don't interfere with each other, but a bottom-line intimacy.
Love is respect. It's human nature to check your partner's phone out of curiosity, but you respect my privacy and ask for my opinion beforehand, that's love! The long-term intimate relationship between partners is an equal relationship without distinction between strength and weakness, but thinking that you should check your partner's mobile phone, this turns the equal status of both parties into a condescending scrutiny.